Over the past week I’ve received confirmation after confirmation that I’m exactly where I need to be. This single season is very much on purpose and in line with God’s purpose.
Sometimes you wonder, is there purpose in this pain, in this loneliness, in this dry season? Yes – absolutely!
It was in this seemingly “bad hand that I’ve been dealt” season that I have been stretched, I have grown, I have matured and I am finally at a place of peace. It took me some time to get here but now that I am, I wouldn’t trade the journey for the world. Where I am now and the process I went thru to get here will be needed in the next season. God is setting me up and preparing me for all that He has promised. I thought he had forsaken me but quite the opposite. He waited for me. He chased me. He allowed people to come in and out of my life and He always remained constant. You rarely get 1 + 1 = 2 with God. He never is and never will be that predictable. But in an equation where there is a constant and a variable, He is always The Constant…The One.
Ladies, there is purpose in the process.
What situation are you enduring today that you’re like, “God, there is no way you can be in this. Why would you have me to endure such pain? I want to see you in everything but this one right here, I don’t know…you’ve truly thrown me for a loop”. Well, I am here to tell you, from experience, that it is in these moments you should be confident in knowing you are exactly where you need to be. He is preparing you for something big and pushing you closer to what He has promised. He is pressing and pruning you …God is trying to get us to a place of total reliance on Him despite what it looks like and despite the circumstance.
Truth moment…I use to look at relationships and marriage as something that could provide love, affection, sense of identity, belonging, feeling wanted, etc. Although those are characteristics that can result from a healthy relationship and marriage, my expectations were for the relationship to be all these things all of the time and that is impossible and an irrational expectation on my part. That person would fail each and every time. Not to mention, I am placing an unattainable and unreasonable expectation on someone. This person was never meant to be and incapable of being all things to me. God is the only one who can. What I wanted and ultimately needed was not in man, but in God. With this renewed perspective I am able to approach relationships differently. A lot less needy and a lot more healthy. I finally put man and God in their proper place.
So now what, the things I thought I should receive from a man, I should actually be receiving from God??? Sooo, what do I need a man for? Lol…
Well, my man, my husband will be a physical representation of what I’m already receiving from God. Doesn’t that sound awesome? And a lot less pressure on the man too! He would have literally had to take on some superhuman qualities. Now when my husband is presented to me, I have a renewed perspective and outlook on marriage and what role we should both be playing.
Do you see why this season is so important? Without it, you will lack what you need in the next. God’s ultimate goal is to enhance His kingdom. Not too much of what we may be going thru is about us but it’s to reach a greater goal and purpose in Him. And believe it or not, God is just that loving that he wants to steer us clear of any unnecessary heartache. After all, His thoughts are not our thoughts neither His ways our ways. If I moved into the next season prematurely, before being given what is needed to endure in that season it could actually cause more harm than good. Trust God’s timing and trust that He has your back, your front, your side and everything in between. He’s looking out!
Let’s wait patiently, expectantly and on purpose. There is so much beauty in the discovery process. God will prove not to disappoint.
Be Brave, Be You, Be Blessed!
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11