I was watching a movie on the Hallmark channel. Yes, I said Hallmark, don’t judge. There was a really profound statement that was made. A lady was complaining about always dating guys who were noncommittal. An “expert” then said, maybe you’re noncommittal.
That statement made me think about my dating history. It didn’t take me long before I realized I had a similar pattern. I too was noncommittal…but my commitment issues were surrounding my faith. You know the saying, “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything”. Well, I never stood strongly on what I believed. I was a chameleon. I was a master at blending into my environment. Therefore the standard on which I lived my life was constantly changing. And without a clearly defined standard and not being rooted and grounded in what I believed – my relationships inevitably led to a lot of frustration. I was asking men to be something that I refused to be for myself. I hadn’t fully acknowledged who I was in Christ.
My frustration with men was really my frustration with myself.
Without knowing who I was and not seeking God for His truth, how could I make an informed decision? I would continue to choose wrong and fail in this area until I committed to choosing God.
What obstacles do you continue to encounter in life because of your commitment issues? What continues to frustrate you over and over, year after year? What battle in your life do you want to win once and for all?
Let’s, like Shonda Rhimes, make this year, the Year of Yes. Yes God, I will commit to choosing you.
Be Brave, Be You, Be Blessed!
“So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth” Revelation 3:16 NIV