Archive | March 2016

We Can’t Be Friends…Can We?

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“We’re not alone – here within his love…Emmanuel – He is still with us.”

I absolutely love this worship song at my church. I break down each and every time we sing it.  Why does this song touch me so much? Because I’ve been there…all too many times.

I have recently come to terms with the calling placed on my life.  I now know and accept that I am different…God has called me to stand out…to be set apart and because of this there will inevitably be times when my friend…let’s call her “Alone” will come to visit.

Alone is one of those friends who often stops by unannounced and for an undetermined amount of time.  She dumps all her problems on you to the point that by the end of the conversation you’re drained and left to pick up the pieces of her life… that have now become your life. She’s one of those house guests that leaves a path of destruction. You know every place she’s been and everything she’s touched.  You are now having restless and sleepless nights while she’s sleeping like a baby…snoring even.

How could you have let this happen? You’ve allowed her to drop her baggage in your house and you can’t  seem to do anything about it.  She’s left isolation, self-pity, victimism, fear, doubt, and depression.  She even gossips and spreads lies about who you are.

How did it get this far? Didn’t we use to be besties? Has she always been this emotionally destructive and I’m just now opening my eyes to see her for who she really is and has been all along?

Alone, we can’t be friends anymore….can we? Maybe we just need to define some boundaries.  Yeah, yeah…that’s it…boundaries.  First of all…you can’t call all hours of the day and night…I have a job…I need my sleep! Second of all…you can no longer stop by unannounced, you need to call, text, tweet, something! And third of all…now this is key so listen up, please stop leaving your baggage behind and for goodness sake, pick up after yourself. I’m tired of picking up the pieces of what you leave behind.

Now though I’d prefer to rid myself of you from my life all together, I know that’s not possible. So I will embrace the good with the bad. Love the person, hate the sin…that’s what pastors say, right?

I will embrace Alone. Thank her for the good that she brings to this relationship. How when she’s around God is always near, waiting for me to invite Him in so He can shower me with His love and reveal secrets that only He can.

I guess Alone isn’t all bad…

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

 

“Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.  If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.” Psalm 139:7-10 (NKJV)

High School Drama

So my girlfriend turned me on to this teeny bopper show…One Tree Hill. I turned my nose up to it at first but it has unexpectedly drawn me in…go figure.

High school drama can be pretty interesting. Correction…this high school’s drama is pretty interesting. It’s not your normal, everyday high school drama we’ve all come to know and love. It’s not laced with the violence of gangs or even the bickering of young girls….at least not yet, I’m only on season one. This drama is deeper than that. But I guess all drama has a root and is deeper than the action being portrayed. I just like the subtle way in which this drama-filled high school’s story unfolds.

The very sad part is how I found a way to correlate the lives of these tv characters to our everyday lives. Yes, you and me.

Simply put, The source of their drama is family. And the source of a lot of our drama is family. We are all, in one way or another, trying to break free and function outside the dysfunction we unfortunately had a front row seat to growing up. Our need and desire to function after the dysfunction is real. Learning how to simply “be” after peeling back all the layers that life tends to pile on is a struggle.

The lyrics to the theme song say it all…

I don’t want to be anything other than what I’ve been trying to be lately

All I have to do is think of me and I have peace of mind

I’m tired of looking ’round rooms wondering what I gotta do

Or who I’m supposed to be

I don’t want to be anything other than me

It’s amazing how something so seemingly surface could be so incredibly deep.

Just a bunch of kids trying to figure out their place in life outside of what expectations were placed on them, whether it be family, society or even themselves. Sound familiar? Some of us as adults are still living this today.

Still on a journey to becoming who we were meant to be. Still peeling back layers, still trying to get to the root of it all.

So when will the journey to becoming end? When will I finally rid myself of this high school drama? Only God knows. But my advice to you would be to sit back, pop in that old ‘Xscape’ cassette and make ‘Just Kicking It’ your theme song. Because you’re about to be laid back, kicking it and enjoying the ride for some time. The road to becoming is cross country…not down the street or around the corner. Settle in!

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

“…The race is not always to the swift…” Ecclesiastes 9:11 (MSG)

Something’s Gotta Give…

Ladies, ladies, ladies…have you ever been like that after a breakup? I know God said there’s a time to mourn, a time to laugh and a time to cry….but the time to cry part of the scripture is on repeat right now. The scripture in my Bible seems to be reading more like a time to cry, and cry and cry…. surely I don’t have anymore tears left in these tear ducts of mine. I haven’t even been drinking that much water lately…so where can the water be coming from? I’m like a well that won’t run dry!

We have definitely all been there. Whether it was with a breakup or some other life altering situation.  When we’re in the middle of it there doesn’t seem to be a way out. The light that should be in the light at the end of the tunnel seems to be lost.

But I can attest to the fact that the light is eventually found. I haven’t gotten this far in life without a few heartbreaks and other disappointments under my belt. And fortunately, the tears were never cried in vain and I was always catapulted to the next level afterwards. Remember, sometimes the one thing that we  try to hold onto so tightly is possibly the one thing that God is trying to get us to release so he can move us higher. Whether it’s higher in your career, higher in your educational pursuits or maybe higher in peace or joy or simply reliance on Him.

So the next time you feel the pain will never end and you can’t seem to turn the water works off, realize its okay, there is a purpose and plan for those tears so just ensure you cry with a purpose. Don’t stay down, make sure you get back up.

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

Blog Bite: Be a Man…

This sermon clip is hilarious….at least I think so anyway. Pastor Judah Smith talks about how men should be the initiators and we as women should be the responders. We were never intended to be the aggressor in the relationship. We don’t need to help him out.

Sound familiar? That’s kinda what we do with God.  When He’s not moving fast enough we decide to take it upon ourselves to make some moves of our own.

Ladies, please allow God to be God and a Man to be a Man.

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

 

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.” Proverbs 3:5 (The Message)

Pimp Slapped

Has anyone ever payed you a backhanded compliment?

A compliment like…

You are too skinny, You are too tall, You are too short, You are too smart, You are too quiet, You are too healthy, You exercise too much, Your feet are too big, etc, etc, etc…

These compliments (you’ll read later why I refer to them this way) can often catch you off guard and you say to yourself, did she really say that??? You almost have to pray to keep from returning a slap or two yourself.

In this life I have learned that people will always have an opinion….that they unfortunately always feel led to share.

You will always be too much of something to someone….

Except God! God is purposeful and intentional. He placed certain things in you and left certain things out of you to be used for His glory. He did not make a mistake.

It took me some time to get to the point where I am no longer offended by all the ‘too’s’ of the world. So continue with the criticism…continue throwing shade because we all know that we only throw shade on what’s shining. So I guess I’m shining pretty bright!

Do I dim my light as to not blind others???

No!

I have been blessed with the confidence of knowing who I am in Christ and who he has called me to be. Criticisms are a direct reflection of the insecurities an individual has yet to resolve within themselves. Therefore, know that the very thing you are “too much” of is the very thing that God is using in you to reach your destiny.

Next time you’re pimp slapped with a back-handed compliment, turn the other cheek and say I know I am and I’m so glad. But make sure you say it in that back in the day, on the playground voice when you’re trying to defend yourself against the school bully by saying the anticlimactic…ultimate comeback of… “I know you are but what am I”.  And finish it up by sticking your tongue out…and praising God for your deliverance!

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

 

“You stare and stare at the obvious, but you can’t see the forest for the trees. If you’re looking for a clear example of someone on Christ’s side, why do you so quickly cut me out? Believe me, I am quite sure of my standing with Christ…..” 2 Corinthians 10:7 (The Message)