We Can’t Be Friends…Can We?

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“We’re not alone – here within his love…Emmanuel – He is still with us.”

I absolutely love this worship song at my church. I break down each and every time we sing it.  Why does this song touch me so much? Because I’ve been there…all too many times.

I have recently come to terms with the calling placed on my life.  I now know and accept that I am different…God has called me to stand out…to be set apart and because of this there will inevitably be times when my friend…let’s call her “Alone” will come to visit.

Alone is one of those friends who often stops by unannounced and for an undetermined amount of time.  She dumps all her problems on you to the point that by the end of the conversation you’re drained and left to pick up the pieces of her life… that have now become your life. She’s one of those house guests that leaves a path of destruction. You know every place she’s been and everything she’s touched.  You are now having restless and sleepless nights while she’s sleeping like a baby…snoring even.

How could you have let this happen? You’ve allowed her to drop her baggage in your house and you can’t  seem to do anything about it.  She’s left isolation, self-pity, victimism, fear, doubt, and depression.  She even gossips and spreads lies about who you are.

How did it get this far? Didn’t we use to be besties? Has she always been this emotionally destructive and I’m just now opening my eyes to see her for who she really is and has been all along?

Alone, we can’t be friends anymore….can we? Maybe we just need to define some boundaries.  Yeah, yeah…that’s it…boundaries.  First of all…you can’t call all hours of the day and night…I have a job…I need my sleep! Second of all…you can no longer stop by unannounced, you need to call, text, tweet, something! And third of all…now this is key so listen up, please stop leaving your baggage behind and for goodness sake, pick up after yourself. I’m tired of picking up the pieces of what you leave behind.

Now though I’d prefer to rid myself of you from my life all together, I know that’s not possible. So I will embrace the good with the bad. Love the person, hate the sin…that’s what pastors say, right?

I will embrace Alone. Thank her for the good that she brings to this relationship. How when she’s around God is always near, waiting for me to invite Him in so He can shower me with His love and reveal secrets that only He can.

I guess Alone isn’t all bad…

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

 

“Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.  If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.” Psalm 139:7-10 (NKJV)

7 thoughts on “We Can’t Be Friends…Can We?

  1. Beautifully said Trina. Really enjoying reading these little bits of your heart. Regardless if you have people around you or not, husbands, friends, pets.. you are bound to feel alone sometimes, but I think God intended it for a purpose. How else will we hear his voice?

  2. Beautifully said Trina. Really enjoying reading these little bits of your heart. Regardless if you have people around you or not, husbands, friends, pets.. you are bound to feel alone sometimes, but I think God intended it for a purpose. How else will we hear his voice?

    • Thanks Alyssa! Absolutely agree! God is very purposeful and will use anything to accomplish His will and purpose in our lives. Alone seems to be the “tactic” He uses a lot with me 😊

  3. Those moments when something that seems so dear to your heart (like an inspirational song) makes you break down and CRY is so refreshing! It happens to me too Trina!! So, you are definitely not “ALONE.” I agree with Alyssa, despite the busy lives we all have and even if you’re surrounded by people around the clock, there are times you still feel alone. I pray to God that I’m able to hear him better – need to heighten my auditory skills so that I can listen and have my steps ordered even better than before.
    This blog post was eye-opening and allowef self-reflection, which was helpful for me! Thanks a ton! #xoxo

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