The Scarlet Letter

Now ladies, you know we all love this song….even the married ladies be singing it….oops!  But how many of ya’ll actually throw your hands up outside of this song? Who wears that single title as a badge of honor? I know I don’t.  Why is that? Why is being single like wearing The Scarlet Letter but instead of the letter A it’s a big S on your chest and you’re pretty much a leper.  How do we change this stigma?

We renew our minds….

It’s a mindset.  Society is gonna be what it’s gonna be but that doesn’t mean we have to fall in line with that thinking.  Throw your hands up!  You are not gonna be an old spinster with a thousand cats, five dogs and a singing canary.  Your husband is coming…God says it in His Word…”Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart”.  Are you delighting yourself in Him or are you sitting around singing woe is me? Serve in your local church, serve in your community, have fun, travel…don’t wait for your husband before you start living your life.  Two halves don’t make a whole – are you whole? If you met your husband today would you be ready to hit the ground running with the things God has purposed you to do as a couple?  Or would you be so busy dealing with the little stuff that you lose sight and never get to the real?  Let’s not start behind, let’s get ahead of the game.  Let’s build ourselves as singles so we can rock it as a couple.  Not saying you won’t have any problems but you won’t be dealing with problems that you should have taken care of before marriage.  So single ladies…throw your hands up!

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!



“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind…” Romans 12:2 NIV

Runway Walk

Ladies…have you ever had a runway walk moment? A day when you were so fly and you knew it? Everywhere you went you heard a beat playing in your head and those 6″ red bottom stilettos followed the beat as you walked.  You walked with purpose, expectation, vision and boldness.  You slam dunked that interview, you slayed it in the board room, you aced that final exam or maybe you were simply fly and you knew it.  Whatever that fly moment was for you…lean with it, rock with it! God intended us to celebrate our victories, after all, you have Favor Leading You and it has manifested itself for all to see….so let them see your runway walk!

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

#ForeverFly #FavorLeadingYou #F.L.Y.


“…let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”  Matthew 5:16



Commitment Issues


I was watching a movie on the Hallmark channel. Yes, I said Hallmark, don’t judge. There was a really profound statement that was made. A lady was complaining about always dating guys who were noncommittal.  An “expert” then said, maybe you’re noncommittal.

That statement made me think about my dating history.  It didn’t take me long before I realized I had a similar pattern.  I too was noncommittal…but my commitment issues were surrounding my faith.  You know the saying, “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything”.  Well, I never stood strongly on what I believed.  I was a chameleon. I was a master at blending into my environment.  Therefore the standard on which I lived my life was constantly changing.  And without a clearly defined standard and not being rooted and grounded in what I believed – my relationships inevitably led to a lot of frustration.  I was asking men to be something that I refused to be for myself.  I hadn’t fully acknowledged who I was in Christ.

My frustration with men was really my frustration with myself.

Without knowing who I was and not seeking God for His truth, how could I make an informed decision? I would continue to choose wrong and fail in this area until I committed to choosing God.

What obstacles do you continue to encounter in life because of your commitment issues? What continues to frustrate you over and over, year after year? What battle in your life do you want to win once and for all?

Let’s, like Shonda Rhimes, make this year, the Year of Yes.  Yes God, I will commit to choosing you.

I choose you heart3


Be Brave, Be You, Be Blessed!




“So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth” Revelation 3:16 NIV

Comfort Zone


It’s so easy to live a status quo life.  That comfortable…that predictable…mundane…go to work and back home life.  The good life…I know what to expect, everything is neatly packaged in its nice little box just the way I need it to be.  No surprises, I know what’s coming.  Well, I was challenged today with going back to “the good life”.  I knew God had moved me past this point and He wanted me to dig deeper, pray harder and trust harder than I ever had.  I also knew this year was going to be an out of the box experience and I was ready.  But today I felt smaller than ever.  I felt myself shrinking back into that box that had given me comfort for so many years.  I met a lady and this lady had a really big personality and possessed skills that I didn’t or that didn’t come easy to me.  She was a natural.  In that exchange I started to second guess my skills.  I could never measure up to that so why try.  Let’s crawl back into our box of “comfortability”.  I was safe there.  But God then quietly whispered, you must move past being comfortable.  I have hand picked you and have put things inside of you that I need to come out.

I wish I could say that after that I walked away jumping and shouting and saying, “yes, God….I got this”.  But that’s not my story…I walked away saying, I need to somehow find comfort in being uncomfortable.  That is where my strength lies.  That is where the greatest things will be birthed in me.

So after a few minutes of meditating on what God spoke to me, I starting to feel a sense of peace.  God was with me, in my corner, rooting for me, he always had been and always will be.

In this life you will always find someone who is better  than you, prettier than you, richer or smarter than you but God is not concerned with that and neither should you be.  Gotta move past the comparison conundrum and the comfortable good life if you are ever gonna grab hold of the thing that God grabbed hold of you for.

Be Brave, Be You, Be Blessed!



“Such is the reliance and confidence that we have through Christ toward and with reference to God.  Not that we are fit (qualified and sufficient in ability) of ourselves to form personal judgments or to claim or count anything as coming from us, but our power and ability and sufficiency are from God.  [It is He] Who has qualified us [making us to be fit and worthy and sufficient] as ministers and dispensers of a new covenant…” 2 Corinthians 3:4-6 AMP