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Love Song

With the month of love or rather the one day in the year set aside to celebrate love behind us, and the season of love about to spring upon us…do you hear the wedding bells? I thought it only fitting to write a blog post about…you guessed it…Love.

So what is love?

Kirk Franklin starts off his song with…”Love a word that comes and goes But few people really know what it means to really love somebody…”

Musiq Soulchild says, “Love, So many people use your name in vain…Love, Those who have faith in you sometimes go astray…”

Two different artists….two different genres yet similar takes on love. However, both are coming from a people perspective of love versus the unfailing love of our heavenly Father.

I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying, “you don’t know, what you don’t know”. What if you’ve never been shown love by your earthly father? What if you were abused or even abandoned by your earthly father? How in the world can father ever equate or translate to Father in this instance? As humans, we often mimic what we’ve been taught. It’s hard to love pass the capacity of what’s in us or what we’ve been shown or received.

So what now? Will I ever know what is to love or be loved?

Absolutely! I said it was hard but not impossible. Anything worth having rarely comes without a little resistance.

I truly believe that people innately know right from wrong, good from bad. And in the same way we know that, we inherently know what it is to love and to be loved.

But just in case you’re still struggling with the concept, let me help you out.

 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 KJV

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 KJV

Meditate on it…

God loved me so much that He sent His son to die for me? How many of you parents would do that? Sacrifice your only son? daughter? Especially knowing that many would still reject you. In this day and age, we’re ready to “unfriend” a “friend” on Facebook for not “liking” a post. Or even cut people out of our lives who don’t live up to our expectations or standard of friendship we placed on them. So as fickle as we are with our virtual friends, God’s ultimate sacrifice of His love towards us should hit home. Because reality check….WE don’t live up to the expectations and standard of living God placed on us yet He still loves us.

God is patient, God is kind, He is not envious, doesn’t boast, isn’t proud. Never rude, self-seeking or easily angered and He doesn’t keep a list of what I’ve done wrong. God protects, always hopes, always perseveres. God never failed me.

So that’s what love is? That’s what I should expect to give and receive?


Now let’s circle back to the two song lyrics about love I opened up with. Those were simply excerpts from these songs. If you listen to the songs in their entirety you will be introduced to an entirely new perspective regarding love. Same goes for our lives. If we simply listen to excerpts of what our lives say about love we will never know The Truth.

Don’t go through life singing one verse or stanza of a song. Learn the whole song or better yet write your own verse. As long as you’re alive, and I’m guessing you are since you’re reading this, your song is not over. There are verses still left to be written. Write them! Allow God to hold the pen to the love song of your life.

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina

We Can’t Be Friends…Can We?


“We’re not alone – here within his love…Emmanuel – He is still with us.”

I absolutely love this worship song at my church. I break down each and every time we sing it.  Why does this song touch me so much? Because I’ve been there…all too many times.

I have recently come to terms with the calling placed on my life.  I now know and accept that I am different…God has called me to stand out…to be set apart and because of this there will inevitably be times when my friend…let’s call her “Alone” will come to visit.

Alone is one of those friends who often stops by unannounced and for an undetermined amount of time.  She dumps all her problems on you to the point that by the end of the conversation you’re drained and left to pick up the pieces of her life… that have now become your life. She’s one of those house guests that leaves a path of destruction. You know every place she’s been and everything she’s touched.  You are now having restless and sleepless nights while she’s sleeping like a baby…snoring even.

How could you have let this happen? You’ve allowed her to drop her baggage in your house and you can’t  seem to do anything about it.  She’s left isolation, self-pity, victimism, fear, doubt, and depression.  She even gossips and spreads lies about who you are.

How did it get this far? Didn’t we use to be besties? Has she always been this emotionally destructive and I’m just now opening my eyes to see her for who she really is and has been all along?

Alone, we can’t be friends anymore….can we? Maybe we just need to define some boundaries.  Yeah, yeah…that’s it…boundaries.  First of all…you can’t call all hours of the day and night…I have a job…I need my sleep! Second of all…you can no longer stop by unannounced, you need to call, text, tweet, something! And third of all…now this is key so listen up, please stop leaving your baggage behind and for goodness sake, pick up after yourself. I’m tired of picking up the pieces of what you leave behind.

Now though I’d prefer to rid myself of you from my life all together, I know that’s not possible. So I will embrace the good with the bad. Love the person, hate the sin…that’s what pastors say, right?

I will embrace Alone. Thank her for the good that she brings to this relationship. How when she’s around God is always near, waiting for me to invite Him in so He can shower me with His love and reveal secrets that only He can.

I guess Alone isn’t all bad…

Be Bold, Be You, Be Blessed!

~Forever Trina


“Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.  If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.” Psalm 139:7-10 (NKJV)